Selasa, 06 November 2012

Kalender Cinta

Den Haag, dini hari.. 
"Sygq tak terasa insya bsok tgl 6, ke 2 thun pernikahan kita berdua, smoga kt slalu dlam lindungan ilahi Rabbi ammmiiin". Sebuah pesan pribadi dari seorang gadis cantik  di inbox facebookku ini sejenak membuatku terharu..  hhehe.. horee tembus 2 tahun sudah saya jadi seorang suami.


Namun sesungguhnya 2 tahun ini masih bruto. Karna kalau diitung2, setelah dipotong masa LDR after just married ini, netto saya jadi suami utuh dekat jiwa terutama jasmani baru 1 semester. Walau begitu namanya jalan hidup, yaa dijalani saja dengan enteng. Demikian pula kusampaikan pada istriku yang Alhamdulillah kini sedang mengandung buah cinta kami. Insya Allah kami berdua diamanahi peran baru yang luar biasa: ayah dan ibu. Meskipun sang buah hati belum terlahir ke alam dunia, namun kami merasa peran itu sudah mulai kami emban semenjak ia maujud dalam rahim istriku. Semoga kami semua senantiasa dalam lindungan Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Aamiin. Kini harus lebih bersabar, meski sudah di penghujung masa studi di Eropa, waktu tetap saja terasa lama berlalu.. bertambah lambat malah.. :'P

bersabar ya, tunggu 'ayah' pulang sayang.

Jumat, 26 Oktober 2012

Road to Eid Qurban 1433 H in Den Haag

Delapan bagi yang meyakininya angka ini bermakna keberuntungan. Hari ini saya terbangun pukul 08.08 pagi, angka jam yang cantik. Namun pukul delapan ini bukan hal yang bagus ketika kamu bertugas menjadi penunjuk jalan bagi umat ISS yang mau berangkat sholat Iedul Qurban di Masjid Al Hikmah Kota Den Haag, apalagi schedulenya berangkat pukul 08.15. Saya buka notifikasi pesan di whatsapp group ISS 2011/2012 Reguler+Phd, "udah pada berangkat?", "Bang az, jemaahnya dah mulai gelisah...", "Jemaah dah mulai anarkis ini :D".. walhasil walau mata masih kucel.. saya langsung lompat ngambil handuk, mandi, wudhu, sholat subuh.. hhe.. sebelumnya tentu saya sempatkan confirm supaya umat yang galau jadi tenang. #Efek kelelahan+begadang+mis-setting alarm.

Untunglah selepas kejadian 'nabi penunjuk jalan telat bangun' ini, segalanya berlangsung lancar. Setelah semuanya siap dan yang ditunggu sudah siap yaitu saya dan A**ef (room mate saya senasib & sepenanggungan), mulailah kami berjalan sekitar 10 menit menuju Halte persinggahan Tram 16, bahtera darat yang akan mengangkut kami menuju ke tempat tujuan: Heeswijkplein, halte terdekat Masjid Al Hikmah.

Old Batch mejeng sambil nunggu Tram 16


Di halte dan di tram kami berjumpa beberapa orang wni yang memiliki tujuan yang sama di pagi hari ini. Alhamdulillah, kami semua tiba selamat & jauh dari kata telat. Sebelum sholat Ied dimulai, kami masih punya waktu 45 menit untuk menjajaki atmosfer Masjid Al Hikmah, sebuah bangunan yang konon dulunya adalah gereja. Proses transformasi ini kabarnya dicampuri oleh tangan dingin Probo Sutedjo, pengusaha besar yang juga kerabat Bapak Pembangunan Indonesia.

Kontemplasi: Malam Lebaran, Dilema Cinta Ibrahim & teroris basi

Malam ini, saya mencoba kembali meresapi makna & hakikat pengorbanan, dgn tidak sedangkal2x akal, dgn tidak selemah2x keyakinan. Melainkan dengan persangkaan baik pada Yang Maha Baik & Maha Pemberi Kedamaian, Allah Swt, yang menciptakan saya, kamu serta para utusan-utusan yang mulia itu; kita semua segala makhluk2 dengan berbagai jenis, rupa, bentuk & ukuran.

Pikiran sederhana saya mengajukan salah satu indikator 'akal yang dangkal' ialah, jikalau output kontemplasi tersebut menghasilkan konklusi sebagai berikut:
"Semangat pengorbanan.. Mari kita korbankan seseorang.. atau bahkan banyak orang.. Grrr".
So sahabat2 saya yang suuu... ka makan cendol..

Yang suka meneror jelas bukan dari Islam. Argumen saya sederhanaji kasihna: menurut buku Pendais SD saya di SDN Kemaraya Timur, Islam itu berasal dari kata salima, yang artinya selamat. Karena teror tidak membawa selamat, maka teroris bukan seorang muslim/muslimah..
#Salam cendol & Selamat berhari raya Qurban 1433 Hijriah.

Rabu, 24 Oktober 2012

Involving men in Sexuality and Reproductive Health in Indonesia (A Policy Brief)




COURSE ID             : 4333


COURSE NAME     : Politics of Sex, Life and Death


LECTURER             : Loes Keysers, Wendy Harcourt




A POLICY BRIEF:
Involving men in Sexuality and Reproductive Health in Indonesia 

Azwar Surahman

The Hague, the Netherlands
2012


1. Introduction

Male involvement is crucial in tackling problems related to sexuality and reproductive health (SRH). This is not only because men are experiencing problems of sexuality and reproductive health of their own but also men have a special place and role within the family, in society and in organizations that the problems can negatively affect women's health. The failure to incorporate men in SRH promotion, prevention, and care programs has had a serious impact on men health, the health of women, and the success of the programs themselves. Policy makers, health planners and service providers have overlooked and even ignored the influential role that men play in the SRH of their families, and especially their sexual partners.
According a report from Pan American Health Organization (2001), there are main reasons for involving men in sexual and reproductive health to improve women’s health. Those reasons are:
Ø  Recognition of men’s influential role in the sexuality and reproduction of couples;
Ø  Recognition that men have their own distinct SRH needs and demands;
Ø  Awareness that inequitable gender relations affect the SRH of both sexes;
Ø  Increasing evidence of the negative effects of men’s risk behavioral patterns on women and children;
Ø  Concern over increasing rates of Sexual Transmitted Infections (STIs) and HIV/AIDS;
Ø  Desire to prevent unwanted or unplanned pregnancies through the increased or more effective use of family planning methods;
Ø  Requests from women to incorporate their partners into SRH promotion, education, and service delivery, particularly pregnancy and delivery.
The shift from family planning to the broader reproductive health agenda need to take in men's involvement. Men constitute an important role in efforts to improve women’s health. The efforts to involve them in ways that transform gender relations and promote gender equity contribute to a broader development and rights agenda (Greene, M.E, Mehta, M., et al. 2004).
The basic argument of this entire policy brief is that men’s roles in sexual and reproductive health must be recognized, understood and addressed much more extensively than they have to date. By these doing so will have well implications beyond reproductive health for other aspects of development in Indonesia.

2.  Conceptual Framework

The need to involve men in sexual and reproductive health had been advised through the 1994 United Nations International Conference on Population and Development (ICPD). It stressed that ‘efforts should be made to emphasize men’s shared responsibility and promote their active involvement in responsible parenthood, sexual and reproductive behavior, including family planning; prenatal, maternal and child health; prevention of sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV; [and] prevention of unwanted and high-risk pregnancies’ (United Nation (UN) 1994).
The extensive research on women’s subordinate status in most societies that informs the ICPD’s Program of Action points to widespread patterns of male prerogative and power, visible in social discrimination such as lower levels of investment in the health, nutrition, and education of girls and women (ibid.). Foreman (1999) identified that inability to negotiate sex, condom use, or monogamy on equal terms leaves women and girls worldwide at high risk of unwanted pregnancy, illness and death from pregnancy-related causes, and sexually transmitted infections. While, combating sexually transmitted infections and the heterosexual spread of HIV is impossible without involving men (Hawkes 1998).
Despite of the important of presenting the men involvement in sexual and reproductive health, in fact the men’s roles were neglected (Pan American Health Organization 2001). Research on population and reproductive health tended to describe women’s disadvantaged position without mentioning men’s roles, usually because the data used were collected only from women. 
         Gender roles on how masculinity norms influence men’s SRH behavior and attitudes are one of the main reasons why men’s roles were displaced. Moreover, boys and men are often uninformed or misinformed about female sexuality, contraception, fertility and transmission of infections. Incomplete knowledge and powerful assumptions made it possible for the field to avoid addressing gender inequities and expressions such as violence in its work on reproductive health. 
        The framework that explaining the wide range of male involvement efforts according to their objectives and outcomes as organized in the framework is defined below.



Box 1. Approaches to Involving Men in Sexual and Reproductive Health 
APPROACH
PURPOSE & ASSUMPTIONS
PROGRAMMATIC IMPLICATIONS
MEN AS CLIENTS
Address men’s reproductive health needs
* Extend same range of reproductive health services to men as to women
* Employ male health workers
MEN AS PARTNERS
Men have central role to play in supporting women’s health
* Recruit men to support women’s health, e.g., teach husbands about danger signs in labor, how to develop transportation plans, the benefits of family planning for women’s health
MEN AS AGENTS OF POSITIVE CHANGE
* Promote gender equity as a means of improving men’s and women’s health and as an end in itself
* Paradigm shift in how programs are structured and services are delivered, whatever they are
* Addressing inequity requires full participation and cooperation of men
* Broader range of activities, working with men as sexual partners, fathers, and community members
Source:  Adopted from Greene, M.E, Mehta, M., et al. (2004) 'Involving Men in Reproductive Health’.

3.  The reproductive behaviour and health of men in Indonesia

In Indonesia, it seems very unlikely to see the role of men in reproductive health. Most of the husband in Indonesia, they do not even know what is referred to as reproductive health. Over the years, men’s participation in family planning in Indonesia has remained low. Based on the Indonesian Demography and Health Survey (IDHS) 2007, the numbers of condom users reach only 1.3% and vasectomy participants 0.2% from total Contraceptive Prevalence Rate (CPR) (Dewi 2009).
In sequence, various studies have revealed about reproductive behaviour and health of men in Indonesia. There were husbands who forbid the use of IUDs as a contraceptive option wife, because of thought that the IUD or spiral could reduce sexual pleasure. Other things, there was a significant percentage of wives ask their husband to use a male contraceptive method, only half of the willing. Because the vasectomy is often thought to reduce sexual ability, while condom intercourse may be tasteless.
Furthermore, health workers in Indonesia also rarely involve the husband in medical consultation, especially in the treatment of pregnancy and child birth. Rather, they wanted to interact only with the wife. There was a fact from physicians who reported; condoms are only offered to housewife clients of Sexual Transmitted Disease patients (STDs).
Another study from Dewi (2009) has identified three predisposing factors that are strongly and significantly related with male participation in family planning and reproductive health. Those are: parity (the number of children ever born), women’s highest educational attainment and men’s highest educational attainment. From enabling factors, women’s discussion of family planning with their family and friends, women’s knowledge of places to obtain condoms, men’s knowledge of places to get contraceptives in general, women’s knowledge of STDs and men’s knowledge of STDs apply the strongest influences on male participation in family planning and reproductive health. Finally, only one factor from reinforcing factors, namely visits by family planning field workers is strongly and significantly related with male participation in family planning and reproductive health. These findings are important to understanding and addressing on how to involving men related of sexual and reproductive health policies.

4.  Policies/recommendation that encourage male involvement

Policy makers as well as project planners should consider how men are already involved as sexual partners, husbands, and fathers, and use those roles to try to involve men in sexual and reproductive health programs and services from a gender equality and partnership perspective. ‘It is now recognized that knowledge about masculine social practices can contribute towards expanding the impact of programs such as those focused on child health, prevention of STDs, control of gender violence and family planning’ (Adriao, K.G, J. Lyra et al. 2002).
Adjusting with Indonesia context, this policy brief offers some innovations to involving men in SRH. Those which inspired from Pan American Health Organization’s report are:
  • Incorporating the gender and life cycle perspectives into SRH programs;
  • Creating opportunities for discussion about masculinities and gender equality among both men and women;
  • Providing comprehensive SRH services for men that go beyond contraception, and that include the provision of counseling to men on family planning, contraception, STI transmission and couple communication;
  • Reaching men in the workplace or where they socialize, instead of relying on a traditional clinical setting;
  • Using social marketing campaigns to promote male involvement in SRH;
  • Involving local opinion leaders in marketing campaigns and service design and delivery;
  • Reaching out to adolescents and young men through creative marketing and public communication.
Besides that, the stakeholders especially for executives, in the central and local government need to support ‘capacity building exercises to train religious leaders, male police, hospital staff and judges on sexual and reproductive health and rights’ (Harcourt 2009).


References
Adriao, K.G, J. Lyra et al. (2002) 'Working with Men on Health and Sexual and Reproductive Rights Rom a Gender Perspective: Experiences from Northeast Brazil"', in Cornwall, A., Welbourn, A. (ed.) Realizing Rights: Transforming Approaches to Sexual and Reproductive Wellbeing, pp. 201. London: Zedbooks.
Dewi, V.Y. (2009) 'Factors that Influence Male Participation in Family Planning and Reproductive Health in Indonesia', Master. Adelaide: The Flinders University of South Australia.
Foreman, M. (ed.) (1999) AIDS and Men: Taking Risks or Taking Responsibility? London: Panos/Zed Books.
Greene, M.E, Mehta, M., et al. (2004) 'Involving Men in Reproductive Health: Contributions to Development', pp. 4-5UN Millennium Project.
Harcourt, W. (2009) Body Politics in Development: Critical Debates in Gender and Development. New York: Zen Books Ltd.
Hawkes, S. (1998) 'Why Include Men? Establishing Sexual Health Clinics for Men in Rural Bangladesh', Health Policy and Planning 3(2): 121-130.
Pan American Health Organization (2001) 'Involving Men in Sexual and Reproductive Health'.
United Nation (UN) (1994) 'Report of the International Conference on Population and Development, Cairo, 5-13 September, 1994', pp. 30. New York: UN.